Have you ever noticed that some areas of your life just don’t work the way you want them to? Try as you might you can’t ever seem to make it work romantically, put yourself forward for success, or quit living payslip to payslip? Well, we’re here to tell you, there’s an affirmation for that.
What’s an Affirmation you ask?
To put it simply, an affirmation is a phrase you repeat over and over again until it becomes a belief. It’s a series of empowering words that are designed to seep into your subconscious and influence your thoughts, feelings and actions.
The goal is to rewire the limited thoughts and beliefs that are already sitting pretty in your subconscious mind by replacing them with better, more empowering beliefs that have the power to shape your life.
Maybe you have the belief that you aren’t good enough (a pretty common one, FYI). That belief will play out in the rest of your life. If you believe you aren’t good enough for success, you’ll continue to play small in your life and career.
But here’s the great news: Changing those patterns is simply a matter of changing your beliefs, and you can do that through affirmations.
The Nitty Gritty
Here’s where things get a little more complex. Every thought you think and everything you say is an affirmation. Yep, when you’re complaining about being broke, you’re affirming to yourself that there’s not enough money to go around. When you’re beating yourself up for not succeeding, what you’re really saying is “I’m a failure.”
When you repeat these thoughts often enough, they become your beliefs, and your beliefs influence your feelings and actions. Think of it like this: Why would you put yourself forward for a promotion if you really believe you’re a failure? Or why would you go on a date if deep down you don’t think you’re loveable anyway?
Remember it like this: A + B = A. Everything you Affirm becomes a Belief. And everything you believe becomes an Action. Your words literally create your life.
Fortunately, if life isn’t working out the way you want it you can turn it around because get this: affirmations also work in the reverse. By changing your self-talk you can change your life in the most positive ways.
Start telling yourself you’re worthy and deserving of success every day and eventually you’ll come to believe that. And once you believe that, it will begin to influence your daily habits and actions. Suddenly you’re putting yourself forward for new opportunities, you’re able to communicate why you’re the best person for the job, and success doesn’t seem as daunting as it used to.
Affirmations have the power to propel you forward into realms you never thought possible. How exciting is that!
How To Use Affirmations
Now that you know the life-changing benefits of affirmations you might be ready to create some of your own.
To change your beliefs, you first need to suss out what your existing ones are. It’s likely you have a mix of empowering beliefs that influence your life in a positive way and limiting beliefs that influence your life negatively.
To identify yours, all you really need to do is look at your current circumstances and identify where you’re at in each area of your life and consider what beliefs may have influenced that area.
Could it be that you’ve always struggled with money because you’ve falsely believed that no matter how hard you work you’ll never have enough? Or that you find it tough making new friends because you believe you need to look, think, and act a certain way to be accepted by others? Identify the beliefs and jot them down.
Now for the transformative part: replace those negative beliefs with shiny new positive affirmations. To do this, look at your limiting beliefs and turn them on their head being sure to consider exactly what you want your life to look like.
“I never have enough money” becomes “Money flows easily into my life and I always have enough.” “I’ll never meet ‘The One’” could become “I am attracting a loving soulmate who cherishes me.”
If you’re stuck, remember your affirmation should affirm how you want your life to be, and is best written in the present tense, as if it’s already happening. For example, use phrases like “I am” or “I have” instead of “I will” or “I’m going to.”
Say it loud and say it proud! To see your life change you need to speak it into existence, so you need to repeat, repeat, repeat your affirmations, and then repeat them some more. Aim to repeat three to five affirmations at least 2 or more times a day to get those new beliefs to fully stick.
If it helps, work this habit into your morning ritual or make a commitment to say your affirmations at a set time of the day. You might like to say your affirmations while you look in the mirror during your skin routine, brushing your teeth or as you get dressed in the morning. The most important part is you add emotion for emphasis. Feel like you are already living it. Give it oomph!
The hardest part when you start using affirmations is getting your subconscious mind on board. When you tell your subconscious mind something new it could reject it. If you’ve been telling yourself all your life that’s you’re undeserving, at first blush, your subconscious mind is going to be pretty confused when you suddenly start saying you’re the greatest person who ever lived. But don’t panic.
Over time the belief will become more ingrained and until then you can use this trick. Try placing the words “I am choosing to believe” in front of your new affirmation until it really starts to resonate with you.
By doing this, you’re still letting the powerful new belief penetrate without your subconscious mind flipping out and rejecting it completely. Keep doing this until the affirmation begins to feel more natural and pretty soon you’ll notice that things are beginning to shift. Your life is starting to change. And then you’ll know for certain that you can speak things into existence, and sure what could be more simple than that?
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